Advice please - mother in law 60th birthday celebrations v baby due?

[toripop]

Ok here goes. Baby no 3 due on 4th Jan and it's mother in laws 60th on 6th Jan. Her partner has said that although he doesn't expect us to travel to her (over 100 miles away) to celebrate her birthday, he would like to have a get together in between Xmas and New Year.

He is thinking of meal, near where we live (where they come from, so they will be seeing their friends etc, not a special trip just for the meal) but my dilemma is that I don't really want to plan anything so close to the birth.

At the moment, all I can focus on is getting Xmas nice for my two children, making sure everything is ready (still working full time) and preparing for the birth. The last thing I feel like doing is planning or attending a 60th so close to the due date.

Also, financially, its a really difficult time for us. Christmas pressies, and then on maternity leave, so a meal out and paying for my partner and I plus our two kids is not going to be cheap.

Just wondered if anyone had any advice/thoughts.

I know it's a selfish of me, cos she's only 60 once, but.....
EDIT - thanks so far. I had thought about inviting them round, but realisticaly, it would be me doing the cooking at at 9 months, i can't do a celebratory meal. Plus they want to include their friends on the meal, so that won't work.

Thought about partner going on his own, but i fear his mum would take offence and she would still want her grandchildren there, so the expense issue is still there.

[Kirsty]

Why don't you invite them round for a meal? That way, you don't have to travel and the costs will be minimal to what they would be if you went out to eat.

[DiamondDoll]

You're not being selfish at all! Could your husband just go for the both of you? Explain to them what you've told us, I don't know why they wouldn't understand. And if they happen not to understand, that's too bad. You are nearing the end of your pregnancy and you have other children to take care of. It's just not a good time for you to travel. Apologize and let them know how badly you feel that you'll have to miss it and maybe have some flowers sent to her, or a special card. Again, if your husband could go it alone that might soften the blow a bit too.

[umm_doughnuts_xx]

Appologies and explain what you have just written to us here!!!!!!

If they get the hump then that is their problem you have been honnest and you are not being selfish - it is just the way it is.

I am sure they will understand.

xxx