My mother in law is obsessed with weight and she has made comments to me in front of my husband such as "shell never be a size 8". I found it excrusiating and asked my husband to have a word with her which he did. However she has continued to comment and when I have got upset she has said that she said it without thinking - what do you think as I am not sure if she is just saying this?
just to confirm I was a size 16 but have lost a stone and now she is obsessed with how much weight I am losing
When she comes eat lots of cakes and say something like your son loves to eat these of me !! Believe me she won't mention it again lol If not tell her your happy how you are !!
This is only between you and your husband. Do not let her see that you are upset and do not 'tell' him to talk with her. Tell him that if he is not going to defend you on his own when he hears these comments, you need to re think where his allegiance lies and that you have done nothing to provoke her abuse. ( assuming you have not) I would not be spending time with her ( but maybe that s what she wants so he will visit alone?)
i think it's time to just say calmly that your husband loves you the way you are, and that's all that matters to you, by showing you're upset, it may please her in some way, so once said, just ignore her as much as you can, i think there's a bit of jealousy on her part
I would'nt put up with it, and I would personally have a word with her myself. She would'nt speak to me like that and my mother in law knows that I would stand up for myself. It's your body not hers, and I would stop her coming to visit if she is going to be nasty. don't tell your husband to have words, speak up for yourself.
Do not get upset, this is playing into her hands. Next comment she makes tell her quietly and calmly that you will not have your weight discussed and if she does it again you will leave. If it happens again get up and leave the room, if you are unable or unwilling to leave the house just stay in a different room until she apologises. I had to do this with my M-i-L when she spoke about my inability to conceive. I also told her that when the day came and I had a baby if she didn't button her mouth she wouldn't be seeing the babe. She soon learned to keep her horrible comments to herself.
It is just jealousy. best to just ignore if you can. If you retaliate then she will know she is getting to you and we cant have that can we. Be proud of your achievements to your self and you husband but don't mention anything to mother in law. You could find something nice to say back to her when she shows her jealousy to sort of take her mind away from it. I mean praise her up if she has done anything or if she is wearing new clothes etc.. Most people are happy if we get praise and she may possibly be thinking of the nice things you have said about her and temporarily forget her jealousy.
I really do think she is jealous.
And don't forget wife's can never look after husband the way his mother did. Or so most M I Laws think.
I think the M I law is one of the hardest obstacles for a wife to handle but it can be done and hopefully you will both become good friends in time.
Don't let her see you are upset by this. When she says things like 'you'll never be a size 8' just say no but I'm lucky I have a lovely husband that loves me no matter what size I am, I don't want to turn into one of these women obsessed with weight there are so many more important things in life don't you think?
You need to tell her that it is hurtfull. If she doesn't stop doing it, then you need to ignore her. I've delt with the same crap from my in laws, I just blew them off, eventually they stopped saying hurtfull things to me.
Mother-in-law weight comments?
Linear Mode
